February 23, 2016 3 min read


Self-control is your ability to control your emotions, behavior and attitude towards others. It is about taking responsibility of your own actions and behavior.

In life as they say it, “what consumes your mind consumes your life “. And with that, it’s up to you on how you are going to deal with life as it is. 

A little self-control can go a long way. It can change not only yourself but the way you interact with and respond to others around you. Learn how you can improve it through these simple tips.

Identify What You are Trying to Control

Control over your job, emotions, eating, shopping, etc. It could be your reactions toward certain situations or (obsessive bad) habits.

Know your thoughts and beliefs that push you to behave in an uncontrolled manner.

Get to Know Yourself

Take time to have a “me time” and assess your strengths and weaknesses. Or, ask somebody you can trust to give you an honest personality assessment.

Observe your attitude and emotions. Know when and what aspects make you become angry or emotional and why and ADMIT it. Practice self honestly to avoid over rationalization. Knowing what you feel means you can do something to control it.


Pressure on the things that you need done increases when you take more than what you can handle. Avoid this by prioritizing things.

Decide on what's important and what's not. Make a list, write notes and consider ideas. Increase your productivity by organizing your activity according to deadlines and level of importance.

Manage Your Time

Use your time wisely. Take initiative. Know and plan how you are going to accomplish certain tasks and do it in a cost-efficient manner to allow you to achieve more with less.

Achieve Goals

Focus on what’s important. Be productive but more importantly, be efficient.

Do what you have planned. Measure your progress until you achieve your desired outcome. Stick to it and live with it.

Finish what you started no matter if you do it right or you do it wrong.

Be Active

Act with enthusiasm in everything that you do and enjoy every minute of it. Make everyday your best day and start each one with a big smile.

As much as possible, be kind and pleasant no matter what the situation is.

Deal with stress

Avoid worrying. Mostly, what you worry about will never happen.

Change your mood and do something different. Think something different than what you feel now. If you weren't happy, try something different today.

Don't get caught. Do better.

Soothe Yourself

When things get rough and it seems like it’s the end of the world right now, stressing yourself about the situation won’t do any good because it is already there or you are already in it.


When you feel calm, you will be more in control.

Resist Temptations

Say No.

Self destructive habits and temptations sometimes controls you. Saying "No" sometimes to certain things prevents you from deviating from something that you're already set out to do. 

Take care of yourself

Eat regularly and healthily. What you feed your body affects your energy and how you will feel.

Exercise improves determination and releases endorphin that triggers positive feelings which make you feel better and happy. Choose a form of exercise that you enjoy the most.

Sleep. Sleeping charges your body to make sure you have energy to be productive and energetic for the day. The longer you sleep, the happier and more productive you become.

Reward Yourself

When you set goals and achieve those goals, make a point of rewarding yourself. Setting rewards for accomplishments strictly help you in managing yourself easily.

Regular breaks and treats will help you improve your daily performance. Learn to enjoy and loosen up once in a while.

Self management is an essential key to make your life worthwhile. It is your responsibility to learn to manage yourself. Blaming others and complaining over bad situations will get you nowhere.

Sometimes, situations are not stressful because of the situations themselves. They only tend to be more troublesome  because we are not able to manage ourselves to better handle the situation.

It's never too late to start over and understand “you”. Deepen your understanding of your own self and you will know how to deal with life no matter what comes in your way.

Self-control can be learned. Practice and develop self-discipline to establish good habits, break bad ones and improve self-control.

Remember! “If you don’t manage yourself, somebody else is going to manage you”. (Anonymous)

It ALL Starts with YOU.

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